tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post3535767597116783601..comments2024-01-26T13:52:15.408-05:00Comments on Life After I "Dew": Life as a Hunters Wife Shannon Dewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06532112640843820431noreply@blogger.comBlogger57125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-91253513367858884902017-01-07T11:57:27.650-05:002017-01-07T11:57:27.650-05:00Same here. I've been married to an outdoorsma...Same here. I've been married to an outdoorsman for 16 years. I hope I can help any of you ladies out there who are trying to decide whether or not to marry Grizzly Adams. Of course I can't tell you what to do, but I do want you to know what you're getting into. It's a hard life. When my husband and I met in the 90s, I was a vegetarian city girl who had never heard of an outdoorsman. I knew people liked to hunt and fish, but I thought it was a hobby. It's not. It's a lifestyle. My husband prepares Thursday evening for his weekend trip, his brother picks him up from work Friday afternoon, they pick up another friend, and off they go. I'm sitting home alone right now because they are off duck hunting. Is this for you? I do love my husband and I'm not quite ready to throw a dead fish in his casket and grab the microphone at his celebration of life and start singing and dancing wildly. But ask me closer to the end of duck hunting season and I might give a different answer. If we had kids I'd be fit to be tied. And if he had the nerve, like his brother, to drop his wife off at his mother's after surgery to go hunting our marriage would be in real trouble. I had the same surgery years ago and the recovery is very painful. So PLEASE do yourself a favor, read this important blog post carefully and take the time to read and think about the comments. Then you decide.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07417685578664722210noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-28701354440524551402016-12-28T21:41:52.052-05:002016-12-28T21:41:52.052-05:00I can relate 100 percent. And after hunting seaso...I can relate 100 percent. And after hunting season, it's ice fishing. Although, I admit I do love the walleye he catches, I get irritated when he goes fishing immediatley after getting home frim work and he spends atleast a few hours on the ice. Ugh... Denaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11905493365963957737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-21134411720663993972016-12-04T06:25:24.997-05:002016-12-04T06:25:24.997-05:00I feel the same but mine just recently started but...I feel the same but mine just recently started but it feels like anytime he gets the chance to leave he runs out the door yesterday morning about 5am he got up and went hunting didn't get back until after the kids was in bed later that night I hear him on the phone with his brother in law I ask him what's going on and he tells me he is going hunting again in the morning so I got irritated and told him no he can stay home with the family well he told me he was going anyways he don't care what I say or how I feel about it he just does what he wants and I'm tired of feeling like I always come last if he was to ask me to stay home in my case I definitely would I'm not sure if it's just me but I feel so alone Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14189520711514420236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-52300438935705005082016-01-21T22:01:09.442-05:002016-01-21T22:01:09.442-05:00I have been dealing wi5th my husband's hunting...I have been dealing wi5th my husband's hunting hobbies for 16 years. We have 2 beautiful children that are my world<br />He hoes to Indiana for 10 days once a year. He goes evenings and weekends during regular season and he goes fishing and coyote hunting. I have no hobbies because I raise my kids. He never spends time with the kids or me and it has consumed his life.i find it very frustrating when he can go on his getaways and I stay with our children.i love my kids and they will always be first but it's hard being alone when he's gone all the time.its getting to the point of being ridiculous. <br />Jessica Gitchellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09660741764704115527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-40133889900844758142016-01-19T22:54:09.592-05:002016-01-19T22:54:09.592-05:00My husband will always put hunting first. And I&#...My husband will always put hunting first. And I'm starting to question if it's worth it....especially after last week when I wondered if I would have to have a surgery this week (complications from a previous surgery 10 weeks ago.) His response was "I can't be there. Friends X and Y have already taken off work to go hunting with me." And yes...he was serious. unhappyhuntingwidowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09265381280589151420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-37326843844672407552016-01-19T22:52:27.019-05:002016-01-19T22:52:27.019-05:00My husband puts hunting first always. Last week, t...My husband puts hunting first always. Last week, there was a possibility I would need to have surgery this week (to correct complications from a surgery 10 weeks ago.) When I tried to discuss it with him, his response was "I can't be there. Friends x and y took off work already to go hunting." And yes, he was serious. unhappyhuntingwidowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09265381280589151420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-9552768460732808182016-01-05T22:23:04.458-05:002016-01-05T22:23:04.458-05:00My husband is a hunter as well. And I'm gettin...My husband is a hunter as well. And I'm getting tired of this as many of you. My question is if that's fair if he is happy and kind to me when he has plans to hunt or going for hunting and angry and unhappy with me if he stays home? I don't think it is. Why we have to sacrifice ourselves and husband relax and do their favourite stuffs when they off of work?Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01851081310138093928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-58651254012760442052016-01-05T22:20:28.819-05:002016-01-05T22:20:28.819-05:00My husband is a hunter as well. And I'm gettin...My husband is a hunter as well. And I'm getting tired of this as many of you. My question is if that's fair if he is happy and kind to me when he has plans to hunt or going for hunting and angry and unhappy with me if he stays home? I don't think it is. Why we have to sacrifice ourselves and husband relax and do their favourite stuffs when they off of work?Lilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01851081310138093928noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-37343642120707148782015-12-11T14:20:38.309-05:002015-12-11T14:20:38.309-05:00i've dealt with men's hobbies my entire li...i've dealt with men's hobbies my entire life. it's golf, music, hunting, fishing, etc. whatever makes them happy. they don't give up their lives for anyone, not even their for their wife and children. women that i know, including myself, don't have hobbies. i work 9-5 everyday, and when i get home i have to clean house, cook dinner, go to the store, and attend sports events for the kids. and if that sporting event is on the weekend...guess i'm going alone, b/c he's hunting or fishing. i guess it's a woman's role in life to sacrifice for the greater good. it's not fair and i feel like pitching a fit. i wish i did have a passion for something, but as you said...i just want to spend time together. i like having the deer meat in the freezer...don't get me wrong...BUT the time sacrifice isn't worth it to me. guess it's my own fault for not 'getting a life'. i'm 40 now and my hobby is laundry. fun.Hunting Fishing Widowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15484652831626900364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-83223893927339194282015-11-26T21:53:50.098-05:002015-11-26T21:53:50.098-05:00Wow! It's nice to see that I'm not complet...Wow! It's nice to see that I'm not completely insane. I'm so tired of arguing about hunting. Every year about this time- I start trying to tell myself that this year will be different. I'm not going to lose my mind when he goes, EVERY weekend to the woods. He isn't growing spiritually or coming home with any new insights to what wil make our marriage or family life better. He's just thinking about deer, thinking about himself and when he will get to go again. I know my husband loves me but the original blogger was right when she said it boils down to jealousy. I AM jealous that he enjoys this more than me or family time or anything else that I have ever seen him involved in. It sucks. I am a believer and I know that God has a plan for my life. I believe that I know what it feels like to be perfectly loved and that is why I am so disappointed in my husband. I am tired of being defeated body and soul ever year for three months. I meant what I said when I said forever. I WILL honor that commitment even when it doesn't suit me but God help me I need help with bitterness, anger and resentment because on my own, I am no match for the feelings I have about my dear husbands "hobby". Ladies, there is hope. There is something here that you can learn from, grow from and be blessed because of. I haven't figured it out yet but I'm not giving up.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01200087070110470188noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-84620579613531717162015-11-25T23:10:37.151-05:002015-11-25T23:10:37.151-05:00It is really hard coming into hunting season espec...It is really hard coming into hunting season especially now since we both started college this year and both have jobs. I love that my guy has a hobby but it has been 3 1/2 weeks since I last saw him/spent time with him. We only live 1/2 hour away from each other and we barely even see each other cause he is at work then school then hunting when he doesnt have school or work. He is self-centered and it is really starting to take its toll on me, cause I just want him to make time for me for once. This is our second time dating and I have heard it a million times "i warned you, if you dont like it you dont have to stick around." It annoys me so much when he says that to me like I am trying to stick through this and you just keep being an butt about it. Even before hunting season I was lucky to see him every 2 or 3 weeks. I just wish he would put a little more effort into the relationship especially now since it is hunting season, I love that he has a hobby just would it kill ya to invite me along or even just send a little message in the morning before you head out. I mean he has taken me once for rabbit but even then he practically tells me to go home as soon as we get back to his house. (we both still live with our parents right now) It is almost like he has given up on us when I havent even complained about his time to him or even bugged him about hanging out. I knew exactly what I was getting into when I decided to date him for the second time, I just thought that maybe he would try a little harder to keep me this time instead of being the one to break up apart again. I love hunting season just hate the time that has to be put into it even if you dont get anythnig. Being a hunters girlfriend is so hard. (i know you hunters wife have it really rough too especially if youve got kids) Hang in there everybody the season is about half way done..kinda. countryangel_18https://www.blogger.com/profile/09968246086126643798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-75686153550253281212015-11-25T19:33:53.035-05:002015-11-25T19:33:53.035-05:00So I'm with you all. 32 (in the fall, feels li...So I'm with you all. 32 (in the fall, feels like 50) years of this. And all I can think of, and Google, is, women's version of hunting. I think I'm going to get my license, get a gun and PRETEND to go hunting and be by myself in the woods, with God, myself and my Kindle. He works hard, I get it. But I work hard too. We both have full time jobs. And if I hear my MIL say one more time, "I'm so glad he gets to go out and do what he loves" one more time, I am going to shoot SOMETHING...maybe even a deer.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00900552053142222835noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-37859199329190401372015-11-24T11:53:19.699-05:002015-11-24T11:53:19.699-05:00I came across your blog right now, and I can reall...I came across your blog right now, and I can really relate. As I love the season of Fall, October, when the leaves start turning and going to Fall Festivals. Making big pots of soups, Thanksgiving to be with Family, Flag Football with my 7-year old son. But then there is hunting, I sit at home alone, because my son goes hunting too at least one day during the weekend. I get company at least Saturday or Sunday and spend time with my son. But it is hunting from dusk till dawn. And he keeps on saying today feels like a good day to get an elk, but then never brings one home. I just pray that he will bring one home, so then I don't have to be so alone during the weekends. I took up watching NFL football and I normally watch this alone by myself on Sundays and talk on the phone with my Dad who is also loves watching football. I enjoy being with my family. That is my life. Sometimes I think I need to get a life also, like join Zumba. I get the same way, this time of year, angry, upset, and grumpy. I just want to be able to spend time with my family, and all he chooses is hunting over us. That is how I feel. But then I don't want to take his hobby away from him-that is not my plan. Guess I feel lonely this time of year. I want the closeness of my family and joy and love of being together and every October it seems like a life of slave (cooking dinners, cleaning house, making sandwiches, etc). We are going to my parents for Thanksgiving which is 144 miles away, however, my plan was to leave Wednesday afternoon and come home Saturday morning. But my husband made other plans-we are leaving Friday afternoon-so he can go come back home to go hunting this weekend. My tears, and frustration, were overwhelmed when I was told this last night. But what do I do! At least I get to see my Mom and Dad, My sister and her family for Thanksgiving right! Trying to be optimistic. Every year, I count down the days until December 1st. But then after that the work begins because he is too busy in the garage cutting up deer and elk. I don't know, I knew what I was getting in to when I married him-I did. But I just need him sometimes to be a little less into hunting and be more into our marriage. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08701193367028702940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-12757788869363583032015-11-17T05:50:29.350-05:002015-11-17T05:50:29.350-05:00Here is what I don't get...he is working 12 ho...Here is what I don't get...he is working 12 hour days all week. 4 am to 4:30. He hunted this past week and got four deer which he now has to hang, skin, and butcher so the 12 hour days are now 16 hour days. Then has leg cramps and not sleeping at night because he is too tired. He will get his kids on Wednesday but will stay most evenings at his parents to do the work on the deer. Eventually he will call off work one day because he has overdone it. It's just poor planning. And whether he knows it or not...he turns into an ass when he's tired and then he's grouchy to his kids. I don't watch his kids when he does this stuff because we don't live together and aren't married. I have my own son. What he fails to realize is hunting on the weekends from 6 am to 10 am and then going back out at 4 pm is affecting his time with his kids. I'm all for a hobby but not one that times that much time away from my kids and having to rely on others to keep them. I'm all for the meat in the freezer but not at the cost of health and family. Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01361085949442968058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-42836864182263612452015-11-14T13:52:01.153-05:002015-11-14T13:52:01.153-05:00We have a two year old and just had a baby. Almost...We have a two year old and just had a baby. Almost everyday of his paternity leave, my husband has gone duck hunting. He gets home about 10am, and then at 5:30 goes to the gym to workout for 2 1/2 hours playing raquetball. I think he is just self-centered. His excuse is now that I'm not teaching anymore and d taying home with kids that cleaning, cooking, paying bills and caring for kids is my responsibility. I am thankful and understand, but not when I'm in pain and up all night with newborn. It pisses me off.jj23https://www.blogger.com/profile/08626073847898441096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-60305760958765250452015-10-26T07:11:58.311-04:002015-10-26T07:11:58.311-04:00I am new to this game. I live with my boyfriend. ...I am new to this game. I live with my boyfriend. We have been together 5 months now. He hunts year round so I don't get a break. Before deer hunting season, he traps and coon hunts. So up at 5am then home around 10. Then workouts or take a nap. Then back to the woods at dark for coon hunting. Comes home around 10pm......sometimes later...and repeats. Two weeks before deer season, we could throw in going to the woods to find new locations after workout or nap time. 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Russ is shy, very well mannered, hunter, fisherman, maybe three friends, and I'm his first girlfriend. So as you all can see opposites attract. In november I decided that our two hour long distant relationship was not working anymore, so I moved in with him. New job, new home, no friends, kids all the time now, no baby-sitter, To work and back home everyday. I knew he loved to hunt & fish so I guess this is just me venting. Which brings be back to falling a sleep last night. I woke up this morning to a kiss goodbye, have a great day, drive safely. Then it hits me. I have made everything so easy for him. I moved, I left my social network, I changed my bank account, and now I'm left with the thoughts of. Is this what I have saved myself for. We are not even married and the honeymoon is over because of hunting. I love him so much but somewhere deep in my inner child thoughts. I would marry my prince charming, who would love me and never put anything above me but as fate has it I'm not jealous of another women, but my fiances hobby 'Hunting." I have never been jealous in my life. (Not bragging but without trying and not because I'm some beauty queen. I just treat people right and loved life) people were jealous of me. So this whole experience has been a rude awakening. I like that he hunts but I woke up this morning and instantly feel like I'm second best in his life. After we marry in August we are planning on starting in vitro to have more children. I had my tubes tied after my second child. I think I am going crazy. In my mind I love him enough to move, new career, marry him, have more children even though my other two sons are eight years away from graduating. All for him and as I lay there with tears rolling down my face in the complete darkness I wondering if I made the right choice or am I just over thinking the situation, Russ is a great man that loves me, I don't have to struggle as a single mom anymore, my boys like him, I just moved the kids should I move again. The thoughts were driving me crazy. So my conclusion to all this madness was I will say a pray and ask God to help me. To be continued.....<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05049884791519693668noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-47466952641268060032015-02-17T11:51:01.555-05:002015-02-17T11:51:01.555-05:00My fiance might hate me after this but I'm get...My fiance might hate me after this but I'm getting this book for him : The Good Husband's Guide to Balancing Hobbies and Marriage (Chapman, Steve) http://www.amazon.com/Husbands-Balancing-Hobbies-Marriage-Chapman/dp/0736916636 Eclectic Zoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10411834785377464088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-5279343908726786102015-01-15T22:18:58.549-05:002015-01-15T22:18:58.549-05:00To you be all the praise DR EZIZA for the wonderfu...To you be all the praise DR EZIZA for the wonderful peace you have brought to my home. 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I've killed deer and birds. I can gut them without flinching and like to think that I am a pretty good cook. He's kind and he's patient, but I don't like hunting a much as he does. As much as he wants me to be out there with him all the time, I'm not passionate about it. And no longer consider it "us" time when I do hunt with him. He takes it so seriously. So I stay home and do my own thing most of the time, but when he gets home, he's too tired to do anything else. He doesn't get too many days off-- he works every other weekend. He's too tired to do anything on the days he works, too. During hunting season, he's spending most his free time out in the woods-- if he's not, then he's thinking about it and planning for it, which makes him neglect things that are important for us as a couple. I'm been trying to figure out what has changed in the last year. And i think it's hunting. His priorities have changed, almost like he's taken a back seat on our relationship, being less thoughtful and less engaged. And I know he doesn't do it on purpose. I fully support his hobby, but not at the expense of making me feel second in his life. We've seen relationships around us sour because of hunting. He said that he wouldn't be that man, but he's becoming that man. Sigh. Food for Huntershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01552963582162536201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-91074180232173430142014-11-15T18:44:07.574-05:002014-11-15T18:44:07.574-05:00today was opening day for gun hunting or whatever ...today was opening day for gun hunting or whatever and of course my boyfriend, who has been hunting since he was a child, went to the forest to hunt with his dad. he takes off work to go kill innocent animals who are just trying to live. he says it's the circle of life, which I understand, but I think hunting with a gun is unnatural and sort of like cheating nature. it's also especially tough for me because im a strict vegetarian and a freezer full of meat means nothing to me. this is the first year I'm having to deal with having a hunter as a boyfriend and it's not easy. I truly do love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but it's hard to look past his hobby. it makes him happy so that's why i tell him to do it but I want to actually mean it when I say it rather than telling him what he wants to hear. it makes me resentful and angry towards him and I hate it. I def need some advice.isaacs441599https://www.blogger.com/profile/03244492759713362805noreply@blogger.com