tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post6866655043153463815..comments2024-01-26T13:52:15.408-05:00Comments on Life After I "Dew": GuiltyShannon Dewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06532112640843820431noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-50952877255412100062012-06-22T07:00:32.278-04:002012-06-22T07:00:32.278-04:00My daughter's name is Kendall too! -- she is o...My daughter's name is Kendall too! -- she is only 4.5 months. You honestly said some of my exact words. My husband told me to take a class of somesort (other than college courses) to get my mind off for a night. So i decided Im going to do a cake decorating class!Vanityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17923893508799149978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-43642778380139433692012-05-09T14:47:45.848-04:002012-05-09T14:47:45.848-04:00You are a very lucky lady to have such an amazing ...You are a very lucky lady to have such an amazing husband! His little note made me get a little teary eyed!Meaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01166675839896294650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-26731415246942203412012-05-08T11:10:35.623-04:002012-05-08T11:10:35.623-04:00Girl, I'm not a Mom but wow does your heart sh...Girl, I'm not a Mom but wow does your heart show so beautifully through this post!!! KP is one lucky girl to have you as a Mom!!!!!!!!! :)Laurenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08257352882657911252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-79831238594045976822012-05-07T07:11:49.557-04:002012-05-07T07:11:49.557-04:00Hon, I feel like this way more than I feel like I ...Hon, I feel like this way more than I feel like I should. But seriously? this mothering thing is freaking hard. Like ridiculous. At the end of the day, your husband is right; you do an amazing job. You'll have days where you feel like you rock it and then days where all you want to do is send your child away. far away. It's totally normal. <br /><br />At least that's what I tell myself. And if it's not normal, well, don't tell me ;)Perfectly Imperfecthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128584550959614381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-6104472662624691432012-05-04T13:13:59.083-04:002012-05-04T13:13:59.083-04:00Shannon, I love so much about this post. Movies? T...Shannon, I love so much about this post. Movies? They don't make me cry...even if they're REALLY sad, I usually don't even tear up. Reading posts like this make me tear up, though, because I know you're real, these emotions are real, and the way your hubby responded is real...and it's sweet. You are an amazing mom, and you already know that - but of course, we all get to feeling this way at some point or another. Hugs to you, friend. I love ya!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-19111793779233882292012-05-04T13:03:37.897-04:002012-05-04T13:03:37.897-04:00I've sort of been in a funk lately too, and fe...I've sort of been in a funk lately too, and feeling sort of down...and I really just think I'm lacking "purpose" in my life right now and that's probably how you are feeling too. Just, in a rut. Good for you for stepping back and looking at your life in a different perspective to realize that you are awesome at what you do, and you DO have purpose in your life. I'm sure I do too, and I just need to do the same exact thing. Bonus points for your super supportive husband. Sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else :-)Amy Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09259453817112186268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-26589441966197176682012-05-04T12:07:45.196-04:002012-05-04T12:07:45.196-04:00I think your an amazing mama and I hope that I can...I think your an amazing mama and I hope that I can be half as good as a mom as some of you ladies. <br /><br />Real talk though, your honest and don't make it sound all sunshine and rainbows and I really appreciate that as a reader and as someone who's not a mom but would like to beLWLHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13975262231105253072noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-24452800292912356402012-05-03T19:20:55.201-04:002012-05-03T19:20:55.201-04:00Make me cry! I am so proud of you, Shannon! You ar...Make me cry! I am so proud of you, Shannon! You are such a wonderful momma...I hope that I'm half the mom you are when/if I ever have kids. KP sure is lucky to have you as her momma. Thanks for being so honest and real...that's one of the things I love the most about you!!!Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11921264796115903641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-61913890865712711192012-05-03T16:42:51.299-04:002012-05-03T16:42:51.299-04:00This is such a wonderful post for moms out there a...This is such a wonderful post for moms out there and you nail the thoughts of many of us at this stage. It's so true--they can do more, but geez it's a tough job making sure they have enough to do and are learning and all of that jazz. I just posted about this today as well. It wasn't as transparent as yours I suppose but often feeling the same nonetheless. And go kiss your husband, girl! You are so blessed to have a supportive man by your side!Cajun Cowgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09009676443040648494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-81363615181307980192012-05-03T16:34:56.952-04:002012-05-03T16:34:56.952-04:00There must be something in the air...I've been...There must be something in the air...I've been having the exact same feelings. Thank you for posting this. Feels good not to be alone!Jessica Hudsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10358843734053036798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-87454768775435274782012-05-03T16:17:24.805-04:002012-05-03T16:17:24.805-04:00I don't even have a child yet, but you have re...I don't even have a child yet, but you have reassured me that when I do have children I don't have to be perfect! Thank you for your honesty. My husband and I talk about starting a family but neither of us are ready just yet. My excuse is I don't want to have to share my time with him. Sad I know!! Sounds like you and your husband are wonderful parents and are both full of wise words for one another.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00393118394495190984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-64976771684322831952012-05-03T14:26:43.848-04:002012-05-03T14:26:43.848-04:00You are a wonderful mother! Don't ever think a...You are a wonderful mother! Don't ever think anything different! I hope you can find a church home. I know I felt so much better after we found our church. Good luck!Mandy Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16191447576004366468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-3165771055346574152012-05-03T12:47:28.885-04:002012-05-03T12:47:28.885-04:00Isn't it amazing when our husbands can talk us...Isn't it amazing when our husbands can talk us down and help us level out in those moments of crazy? That is hte makings of a strong, solid marriage right there. I definitely feel this same way many times. I've been daydreaming of that past life and thinking about how it's going to change once again as we add another critter ... it's such a funny place to be in. On one hand, we would never ever ever trade our sweet kids in for the world, yet on the other hand, the prospect of shopping without entertaining a little person (or worrying about when you have to get home to said little person) or going out to eat without having to use your iPhone and MMCH to get the toddler to sit still or getting a pedicure or this or that sounds so delightful. But then I try to remember that ache in my heart that I had during those kidless days, the ache that told me I wanted a baby and a family so badly ... sometimes it's so easy to think the grass is greener on the other side But really, the grass is greener wherever you water it :) Love you friend.Lucy Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09172695235913542465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-17797731747399614342012-05-03T12:27:23.980-04:002012-05-03T12:27:23.980-04:00I just found your blog yesterday but love it alrea...I just found your blog yesterday but love it already. I get bored with being home all the time. MOPS has been such a wonderful resource for me and I have made some amazing friends from that group. Even now as my husband is going through radiation treatments those ladies are sending me encouraging messages every day by text, facebook, or mail! Hope you find an amazing group as well!Meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08532861604799609779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-7905135781976385952012-05-03T12:11:15.495-04:002012-05-03T12:11:15.495-04:00Kuddo points for that hubby! HE has the right word...Kuddo points for that hubby! HE has the right words at the right time for you and your family. <br /><br />As a mother we all have these thoughts (more times then not) but when you can realize it is just CRAP and smile at the success u are amazing!momFITtingitallinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08642349889858630103noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-45663436561955248242012-05-03T11:56:40.784-04:002012-05-03T11:56:40.784-04:00Shannon- you are an amazing mother and I know this...Shannon- you are an amazing mother and I know this feeling all too well- it is most likely my ultimate struggle in life- because we all hope to be the "perfect mom" but I'm now realizing that my girls just want the best of me, and someways that isn't anything great at all! Love ya!!!Lindseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07449981620207556102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-46676346004148096692012-05-03T11:43:29.725-04:002012-05-03T11:43:29.725-04:00See I can't relate at all. I'm on the othe...See I can't relate at all. I'm on the otherside. My husband and I have been together for 7 years and married for 3 and a half. We've had so many "us" moments it's sickening. Travelled all over the world. But for the last year we've unsuccessfully been trying to have a baby. I would kill to be in your position. I'm over "me" time and random date nights. As they say...the grass is always greener.Jasminehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10101413727456511741noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-85994462715372031082012-05-03T11:35:24.209-04:002012-05-03T11:35:24.209-04:00Awwww you have such a wonderful hubby! And this al...Awwww you have such a wonderful hubby! And this also affirmed my desire to wait for kids! Dont wanna regret not waiting down the roadAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16288337204695001167noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-38034972834458633892012-05-03T10:55:22.784-04:002012-05-03T10:55:22.784-04:00I either feel like Supermom or The Worst Mother in...I either feel like Supermom or The Worst Mother in the History of the World. 90% of the time, it's the latter. I mean, who yells at their kids and hates making lunches and forgets promises? Uh, me. I think you are a fantastic mom. Really.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16377594606599796121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-62871396027419066062012-05-03T10:31:27.833-04:002012-05-03T10:31:27.833-04:00I'm a fairly new reader and have never comment...I'm a fairly new reader and have never commented on your blog, so first off, hi! And secondly, I just had to comment because I. Know. Exactly. How you feel! You're so not alone in these feelings! I feel like parenting is a roller coaster and on the down moments if you don't let out your thoughts you'll stay in those down moments longer, so it's good to get it out! And thank goodness for awesome hubs that listen and offer great insight. Just 2 days ago i had an ugly cry moment because nothing I was doing to punish my attitude-y 5 year old had any affect on her, I felt like I had no power, and I too, wanted to wave the white flag in defeat! But then the next day it got better. So just look forward to the next day for a fresh start.Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16193131122343135201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-70658765454566149642012-05-03T10:24:39.000-04:002012-05-03T10:24:39.000-04:00Thank you for writing this. Thank you for your hon...Thank you for writing this. Thank you for your honesty. I wasn't going to write a comment because you had so many lovely ones already. Then I went to move on with my morning and I couldn't stop thinking about your post. Tears started flowing. So I had to get back on here and let you know that your post struck a cord with me. I am no longer in the toddler stage and yes it does get easier more days then not, but I am defiantly feeling like you as of late. I just feel like I'm failing with our home, our children, and not the best I can be in the wife department either. Just like Jimmy did with you, my husband also had a talk with me and said great things. I think as SAHM we accomplish a lot more than we think we do. I think the lack of feed back, sometimes not feeling appreciated, and little ones always around is so exhausting. Hang in there mama. I keep telling myself there are better days ahead.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11848376667980991220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-67436685965849472802012-05-03T10:19:07.264-04:002012-05-03T10:19:07.264-04:00Aww I can definitely relate and I'm only 4 mon...Aww I can definitely relate and I'm only 4 months into this mommyhood thing but there are days (most days) when I'm so tired after work that I wish I could just come home and lay on the couch like I use to but I can't, I now have a baby I need and want to spend time with especially since he's in daycare all day. So yeah I get no breaks, no "me" time anymore. It's hard. But it sounds like you are doing a kickass job!Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04356655617475615318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-46872777732747054892012-05-03T09:58:47.023-04:002012-05-03T09:58:47.023-04:00I go through phases like this all of the time. I&#...I go through phases like this all of the time. I'm a stay at home mom as well, and I try to do so much, but at the end of the day, I still feel like there's so much more that I didn't do. We just have to remind ourselves that we can't do it all. And these amazing children running in circles around us... they are so amazing because of us. It doesn't just happen. I think all of us have at least a little "Mommy Guilt", but we have to use it to make ourselves better... not to bring ourselves down. Enjoy that glass of wine, schedule date nights with your hubby, and get your family to church. I need to take my own advice! ;)Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01637228556141508129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-31667636806271288072012-05-03T09:50:46.796-04:002012-05-03T09:50:46.796-04:00I honestly dont know what to say except.. yes, yes...I honestly dont know what to say except.. yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. I totally know everything you are feeling. And the best part? It's completely normal. Go on with your bad self mama. Get some time with your hubby. Keep teaching Kendall all your fab ways. You are rockin it. And when you feel like you aren't (like I've been feeling A TON lately) take 10 min to yourself. I know you know that it does wonders!B Fhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13355582761039013864noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5645105390063604360.post-42008225476348046902012-05-03T09:45:07.260-04:002012-05-03T09:45:07.260-04:00Try and keep in mind...Kendall will only be this a...Try and keep in mind...Kendall will only be this age for so long and I PROMISE you and Jimmy are going to have "your-time" again and then you will miss these days!21st Century ONEALShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10856082029134600125noreply@blogger.com