Showing posts with label social media. Show all posts
Showing posts with label social media. Show all posts

May 15, 2014

Instagram Censorship

Yesterday James Weston turned 9 months old.  I'm awful at taking his monthly pictures {#secondchildproblems} but usually remember to do the milestones {3 months, 6 months, 9 months, etc}.  So yesterday before his bath I got out his BB Blocks to try and snap a quick pic before he turned into the raging monster that he is from the hours of 5-7.

I got one.  A pretty cute one, if you ask me.
I got comments saying how cute he was, how chunky he was, etc.  I mean he IS cute, he IS chunky.  That is all I see when I look at this photo.  A cute, happy, chunky baby.

Apparently that's not what everyone sees.

I got a notification that someone had commented and, to my surprise, when I went to read it and respond my picture of my cute, chunky baby was gone.  Interesting.  I know Instagram has issues all the time so I didn't think much of it, figured it'd be back up later on.

Until I checked my email and saw that that photo had been reported and removed due to inappropriate content.

Umm, what?

I went back to my camera roll to double check.  No frontal nudity, not even a butt crack can be seen in this picture.  Sure, obviously he's naked but didn't Anne Geddes get famous for photographing naked babies and putting them on greeting cards and calendars?

I'm still in shocked and a little mad.

Would I post pictures of Kendall naked?  Absolutely not!  Not even her bare booty.  I have a rule, if they're under one it's OK and ONLY if it's the booty.  Only cute, little, chubby, dimply baby butts.  Frontal is never OK, ever.  There are boundaries when it comes to sharing pictures, definitely.  I've shared bath time pictures, where everything is covered also, and those never got reported and removed.  So I guess bath time nudity is OK?

Baby butts are not pornographic, at all, and if someone sees them that way then they need to check themselves.  I hate that we live in a world that we even have to think about people viewing innocent, young children that way.  I am their mother and I'd like to think I can make good decisions when it comes to what I chose to share about MY children.  I find it offensive that someone else took that responsibility from me when they chose to report this innocent picture.

Where do you stand on this subject?  Like I said, I think there is a fine line but I hardly think this picture of my sweet boy crosses it.

January 6, 2014

Technology Turn Off

I'm sure you've all read this article by Jarrid Wilson by now.  If you haven't, go read it and come back.  I'll be waiting...

OK, great.  Sound like you?  It sure as heck sounds like me.  In fact, one night Jimmy and I were both sitting on the couch with our phones, scrolling our IG feeds and saying things like, "did you see THIS one?" knowing that we both follow a lot of the same friends.  It was kind of pathetic and Jimmy even said to me, "let's put our phones away, this is stupid".  And he was right.  Instead of enjoying the peace and quiet and some very rare but much needed husband-wife time, we were on our phones.

Are we that boring to each other that we need to find pleasure and entertainment from our phones and the happenings of other people's lives?  I sure hope not because what a sad, long life we will have.

When we are hanging out with friends I have been trying to enjoy their company.  Put the phone in my diaper bag and just be in the moment.  The virtual world cannot compare to the company of friends and laughter of our children playing together.

Do you take your phone to bed with you?  I do.  I know you aren't supposed to but I have always.  Jimmy uses his for an alarm so he brings his to bed too.  Jimmy falls asleep at the drop of a dime so a lot of times I lay in bed scrolling through all my various feeds and checking emails.  In the morning the first thing I do is grab my phone and pick up where I left off the night before.  Pathetic, I know.

I think about it a lot, this love/hate relationship with technology.  While I love being able to keep up with my friends and family with the click of a button, in the palm of my hand, I love finding new ideas, recipes, crafts, outfits, etc, I love sharing my ideas, recipes, outfits, etc it is also very very difficult to keep up.  It's time consuming.  It sometimes makes me feel inferior.

I think about the generations before us, how they didn't have these conveniences and how simple life must have been "back then". Now I don't know that I'd go so far to say that I wish I lived "back then" but I do think it would be nice to experience a simpler life. It's hard to even imagine a life where people aren't sitting at dinner checking their phones while at a table full of other people or actually being forced to have a conversation with a stranger because you don't have a phone to occupy your time while sitting in a waiting room.

So I'm with Jarrid on this one.  I don't know that I can divorce my phone but I think I want a separation.  We can live in the same house and we can even be cordial to each other but our time is going to be severely limited.  It's time to start focusing on what's right in front of me, live in the moment, and enjoy this life.

November 12, 2013

Social Media: Then & Now

Do you remember the early days of social media?

MySpace, anyone?

I can literally remember, back in the day, when I just had a Facebook and MySpace account.  I could barely keep up with the TWO and so I decided that MySpace was WAY cooler than Facebook {remember when Facebook was kinda lame?} and deleted my Facebook account.  Jokes on me now.

Now there's Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Pinterest, Foursquare, Tumbler, Blogger, Wordpress, Bloglovin', LinkedIn, and I'm sure a whole slew of others that I am missing/do not know/care about.  Chances are you are a part of one or more of these and holy cow, that's a lot to keep up with.   Forget Keeping Up With The Kardashians.

I refused to join Twitter for the longest time.  I didn't get it, it didn't make sense to me.  And this was even before hashtags existed.  For some reason or another, probably for blogging purposes, I signed up.  I instantly got sucked in.  You can follow celebrities?  Sign me up! I'll follow all of them.  Twitter was easy and fast {that's what she said}.  But Twitter was also full of drama in the form of 40 characters.  I mean it's hard to distinguish someones tone in just 40 characters and I saw lots of "conflict".  Thankfully I was never really a part of any of it but it was enough to leave a bad taste in my mouth and therefore I quit the Twit. Well, kind of.  I still get on, late at night when I'm feeding the baby, if someone @ me or to promote my blog or my sponsors but that's about where it ends and I'm OK with that.

Pinterest was something else that I avoided like the plague.  I had heard everyone and their mother  say what a complete and total time-suck it was and I barely had time to put on deodorant let alone get sucked into yet another social media outlet.  So I sat by and deleted every invitation that came my way and secretly wanted to know what it was all about.  I finally caved and accepted an invitation and they weren't lying.  Total time-suck.  So you think you're going to actually make all those recipes you're pinning?  Probably not because OMG you have to pin more!  And then, like your Barbie Dream House a week after Christmas, the excitement wore off and now I couldn't tell you the last time I was on.  Oh, wait, it was last night when I was feeding James.  Seriously, what did I do during midnight feedings before?

Instagram is by far my most favorite form of social media.  I hope I never lose the urge to scroll through people's pictures of their dinner or another Starbucks red cup because it makes me smile.  Silly?  Yes, totally but I love it.  In a way it seems like Instagram is a quick, short, form of blogging, no?  In some ways I think it's replacing blogging, to a point.  Like that dinner I could have blogged the recipe for?  Why bother I just shared it with 1200 of my closest friends on Insta.  I hope blogging doesn't ever go away but as long as Instagram is there it'll be easier to digest.  LOVE.

As for LinkedIn, Foursquare, and Tumbler? I have no clue and I'm cool with that.  I barely have time to keep track of the few forms of social media I have and there's no way I'm going to "check in" every time I go to Target to earn "badges" or whatever.  Plus, Jimmy doesn't really need to know that I went four times in one week anyway.

So what are your favorite social media platforms? And, for crying out loud, do you still have a MySpace?

October 2, 2012

The Power of Blogging

From daily/life planners to Pumpkin Spice Lattes, blogging has truly opened my eyes to so many great products.  I have always prided myself on being someone who can resist peer pressure {to a point} but when it comes to the blogging peer pressure I cave almost every time.  Some of the influences have been good others have been eh.  But I swear if I see one more person blog about Bridier Baubles one more time I'm going to buy a Bota necklace and I don't even like it!  Seriously!  But, some things that I have fallen for include, but are not limited to the following:

Erin Condren Life Planners:  It's no joke that I have a love/hate relationship with this thing.  I got it last year with a Plum District deal, making it half price, after reading so many rave reviews about it.  Upon first glance, I loved this thing!  The tabs!  The labels!  The page marker!  The stickers!  The little pouch!  The free personalized stickers!  All the bells and whistles were just what I "needed" and?  It was so pretty!  I mean it had my name on it!  Fast forward one year later and I barely use the damn thing.  Sure it's nice to have when I do need to use it but a planner from the $1 bin section at Target would serve the same purpose.  Needless to say I'm glad I only paid half-price for it considering that's about as much as I use it.  This year I'll be caving for the latest blogger obsession, May Books.  They're still customize-able but the price and size are totally more budget and mom-friendly.  
The Children's Place PJs:  I've heard one too many blogger talk about the amazing-ness that is the "stretchie" long enough. Last week it got chilly enough to bust out the footies and Kendall was busting out of all her 24 month ones from last winter.  I knew just where I was going this time around, The Children's Place.  I have always been a loyal Carter's sleepwear buyer but I couldn't resist the temptation to try these "amazing" pajamas a moment longer.  I mean have you seen the adorable patterns they come in? The birds? I die!  So Kendall now owns 4 pair {2 stretchies and 2 blanket sleepers} for the fall/winter and I couldn't be happier.  Thank you fellow mom bloggers for showing me the light that is The Children's Place pajama department. We'll never look back, unless you tell me about some other amazing pajama and then I'll probably totally cave and buy those too.
Starbucks:  OK well obviously I can't give bloggers  full credit for this over-priced coffee BUT it's safe to say that when I check Instagram and see one of my "colleagues" with a green and white cup I want one too.  The exception to this rule is the Pumpkin Spice Latte.  I know it's all the rage every September but for me it's just not my cup of  I much prefer the Salted Caramel Mocha or even a Caramel Apple Spice.  My trusty standby is always a Skinny Caramel Macchiato though, love that thing hot or cold.  Does anyone else notice a similarity among all of my drinks?  Caramel.  Yes, please!  And don't even get me started on the girls that are lucky enough to know their barista and get their names written on their cups!  Jealous!  Yeah, I said it. Bust seriously, when I see someone sporting one of these I immediately think of some errand {near a Starbucks} that I "need" to run.
iPhone Cases:  I had my eye on a new iPhone case for months.  I knew I wanted a monogrammed one but I could not justify any of the price tags I was seeing.  I mean $50-60 for a case that's going to get dropped, thrown by a toddler, you name it, it's just not in the cards for me. I had my eye on Simply Monogram for a short period of time, even "hearted" them on Etsy but couldn't commit because I just didn't know how the quality would be.  Well thanks to the gorgeous Whitney for reviewing her Simply Monogram cover and raving about its awesome-ness I was finally convinced and able to order mine with confidence.  I can now attest to it's durability.  I love this case and even better is that I love it's price tag! For $16 you can even customize your own design {business logos anyone?}.  Love it and if it weren't for blogging I would never have such a cute cover to tell you all about.
Alcohol:  I'm going to say it, the blogging world is full of alcoholics.  I am one of them so I can say that.  I am thankful for my fellow adult beverage lovers though because without which I wouldn't know about a lot of tasty drinks.  Lindsey reviewed the Mich Ultra this summer and it sounded so refreshing and delicious and mmm...mmm...good I just had to try it.  It is just as good as you imagine although now that it's fall I'd recommend an Octoberfest.  Just sayn'.  Then, I believe it was Jenn who introduced me to Cupcake Red Velvet wine.  I don't know that it's necessarily that it tastes like red velvet cake but it does taste delicious!  If you don't like red wine I suggest starting with this because it's still a little on the sweet side.  And, let's not forget about the Instagram famous Lime-a-Rita.  I'm pretty sure, it's safe to say, that every blogger {who wasn't pregnant} posted a picture of this this summer.  Normally Jimmy wouldn't let me pay $12 for Bud Light products but somehow I convinced him that this was a worthwhile investment and I think he liked it too. I think.  Anywho, I liked it and I think 2 did me in for the afternoon.  The cans are small but they pack a big punch! AP even suggested drinking it with some tonic and I think that just might be the key ingredient.  Yum-bo!
So, yeah. Blogging is awesome.  Blogging single-handedly stimulates the economy, I am sure of it.  If it weren't for some of my BBFF's sharing their latest and greatest toy discovery, one that will occupy my two-year-old for longer than 4.7 seconds or sharing a great new must-read book {ahem...Fifty Shades...cough...cough} I would be in the dark.  That is until they talked about it on The Today Show.  But seriously don't you sometimes see things on TV and/or in your every day life and think "OMG I knew about that months ago because so-and-so blogger talked about it.  That is so two weeks ago!"?  No?  Just me?  I digress.  Blogging is awesome and has introduced me to so many wonderful things {yay! wine!} and, for that, I am thankful.

September 17, 2012

An Apology and Update of Sorts

First things first, I'm sorry for the way I left things last week. I hate ending my blog week on a sour note.  Truth be told, I was in a sour mood pretty much the rest of the week, into the weekend, it's not been pleasant around here. But stepping back and taking care of things at home is most important and that's what I've been doing.  I needed a few days of no emails, no updating Facebook and/or Twitter, no reading blog comments, just to unplug.  It's definitely helped my stress level, a little.  But I love this blog, I love this community, so I couldn't stay away too long.  So here's an update of sorts.

-Chanel is doing better.  She had her uterus removed and the vet told me that it was huge.  OK, gross.  He said it was so "infected" that she probably lost weight just by removing it.   Poor girl.  Saturday I started to get worried about her because she hadn't eaten much or drank anything since being home and, good Lord, that's all I needed was a dehydrated, malnourished dog.  So Saturday morning I loaded her and Kendall into the car and back to the vet we went.  Do you know how hard it is to do that alone when the toddler wants to run away, into traffic and your dog isn't allowed jumping into the car by herself?  It's hard.   Really hard. And stressful.  Luckily she checked out just fine and came home with a couple of new meds and a clean shaven behind.  I can honestly tell she's feeling better today and has even managed to get some food and water in her.  Looks like she's on the mend, I hope.

-There will be no Challenge Your Closet today.  Maybe not even this week.  We'll see.  With all that's gone on this week I didn't make into the shower a few days, let alone get all dolled up in something blog worthy.  I could share "how to go in public without taking a shower and not completely scaring strangers" but that wouldn't help anyone.

-We found a church, after only leaving here for 2.5 years {::insert eye roll::}.  We're pathetic. Jimmy had plans already set in stone this Sunday so we didn't get to go this week {he didn't want me and Kendall going for the first time without him}but next week we'll be there.  I cannot wait.  I've been feeling the need for this in my life and I'm happy with our decision.  The church looks like it will be perfect for us and has all the "things" we were looking for so here's hoping.

-I wanted to take a minute and address why I have sponsors.  Back when I started blogging {almost 4 years ago} there were no such thing as sponsors {that I know of}.  No way to help the newbies get exposure, no partnership to help promote your blog/business.  Now there is and if I can help get the word out about someone else I'm happy to do it.  I do not take my job on this blog lightly and truly hope that all who have sponsored me {past and current} can attest to that.  Sure it makes me a little money on the side and for that I'm truly grateful.  There have been months where that extra has put gas in my car or saved our checking from being overdrawn.  So thank you.  Truly.

-Have I mentioned how wonderful my mother-in-law is?  She's offered to keep Kendall for me a few hours each week so that I can have some me time.  Last week we skipped out because her dog had puppies but this week she's going to keep her so that I can go get my hair cut, finally.  I cannot express my gratitude for this woman.  I know I will be soaking up each and every minute of my head/neck/back massage while I'm at the salon on Thursday.

-I want to talk about our TTC journey with Baby Dew #2 but I feel like I can't.  I know there are so many women out there that have trouble TTC and that if I post about being disappointed that this month wasn't our month I look like I'm being greedy.  Truth is we've only really been trying for one month and that's nothing compared to people who have been trying for years.  But it's still disappointing and I'm allowed to be bummed.  So we'll see where that goes.

-Thanks for your patience while I go through this rough spot in life.  I'm hoping that that is all this is and that soon, very soon, we'll be on the upswing again.  I promise not all posts will be as depressing/boring/lame as the past few have been.

March 30, 2012

Feeling Funky

And not in a bust-a-move, go-on-with-your-bad-self kinda way either.
You see, I'm in a sort of social media funk right now.  I feel like I've overdosed on Twitter, Facebook, Pinterest {ok maybe not Pinterest} and everything in between and now I'm feeling like I need rehab.  
Don't worry, I'm not going anywhere as far as this blog is concerned, chill out.
I feel like I am so plugged in all the time, all.the.time.  I'm on Twitter all day, checking Instagram just as often and occasionally updating Facebook, it's a full time job just being in the know.  But it's not my job.
My job is to be Kendall's mom and Jimmy's wife.
You know what the pathetic part is?  I'm all, "oh need to check Twitter to see what I'm missing" when in reality by doing so I'm missing out on so much more.
Sure it takes all of 2.5 seconds to go through your Twitter feed BUT those 2.5 seconds add up!  When you check it every 2.5 seconds for 2.5 seconds you'll find you are on there a lot.  At least me anyway.
I can't tell you how many times Kendall has pulled on my pant leg and said "'mon" {come on} and I've said, "just a second baby" because I was reading a blog or checking someone's Facebook status.  Or Jimmy has come home to me on the computer, who wants to come home to that?
When I started seeing people giving up Twitter and Facebook for lent it was almost like a slap in the face to me. I needed to do the same thing, but I didn't.  Instead I took baby steps, stopped updating Facebook and when I did get on Twitter I didn't go all the way through my feed I just looked at the current stuff, like I said, baby steps.
These little things alone have put things into perspective for me.  I've put my phone down and I know Kendall has been happier.  So what if I'm not catching a picture of her "playing hide-and-seek" or a video of her running and giving me the biggest hug.  You know what's better?  Living it.  Experiencing it.  Being in the moment.  
Do you know how freeing that is?
Jimmy gets a wife that is fully attentive when he gets home.  One that has dinner ready {most of the time} and makes his lunches {kind of} and puts his laundry away, little things that help him in a big way.
Not to mention how much more I am able to get done when I'm not online.  Our laundry is caught up, the dishes done, grocery shopping is complete and I feel a sense of accomplishment over this.  
I love my online life, I really do, but sometimes it's overwhelming. Feeling like you need to know what is going on at all times, feeling like you need to take pictures all the time so you can "share", feeling the need to comment and "like" other's pictures so they "know" you care and are looking, it's too much.  
I saw a pin once that had a basket of cell phones and a sign that said something like "be with the ones your with", basically asking that everyone at a party leave their phones in the basket and just enjoy being where they are/were in the moment.  I've been applying that to my life. Leave "stuff" and just be in the moment.  When I'm in the moment I can take baths with Kendall instead of checking my phone while she plays in the tub. When I leave my phone "in the basket" I can enjoy my best friend and her girls and connect with her like I've needed to for a while because I cherish our friendship.  When I forget about what's going on in the world of the Internets I can be a better me.
I know this is a lot of blah blah blah but it's on my mind and it's on my mind a lot.  I know I'm not the only one feeling this struggle but I want to be the one who encourages others to live their lives. 
This doesn't mean I'm going away in terms of social media but it does mean I'll be stepping back more.  So what if I don't get to reply to an email for a few hours and I miss a cute picture that someone tweets. I've realized that if something is that important to someone or to me I will find out about it and if I don't?  That's ok too.