October 5, 2012

31 Days: Day 5

So today I wanted to address a few things.  Nothing spectacular happened today or last night in terms of me being a better wife.  Jimmy worked late, went to bed early so I didn't really have much time with him, to show him.  So I wanted to take a minute to reflect on the week that's passed and respond to some feedback I've gotten already.

First of all I am, by no means, the best wife of the day, week, month, year.  Believe me.  Part of the reason I started this entire journey is because of that very reason.  I wasn't always the best wife I could be and I wanted to change that.  Jimmy deserves better, we deserve better. So thanks for the nomination but I don't think I'm even close to making an acceptance speech at this point.

Secondly, I got a lot of people asking if Jimmy knows about this "challenge".  The answer is yes, he does.  He didn't when I first started because I didn't even know when I started {remember I vowed to make this change on Friday night but didn't learn about this link up until Monday morning}.  When he came home Monday I said, "so there is this blogger who started this really cool thing and you have to write about doing something for the next 31 days and guess what I picked?" and he hit the nail on the head, "being a good wife?".  He had already noticed.  Do I think the positive response I've gotten from him is because he knows?  No way.  I think his change has come from my change, I believe that 100%.

And on a final note, you girls are making this easy for me.  Your words of encouragement and comments saying how these posts are inspiring you to be a better wife are almost as rewarding as the reaction from my husband.  So, THANK YOU.  Last night I posted to Facebook that all of my "chores" were done, Jimmy's lunch packed, and everyone was asleep except for me and I don't know how many "likes" I got but, then, someone told me that they had packed their husbands lunch because of me and how happy it made him.  Well, hot dog!  That's what it's all about!

So let's see if we can't start a husband loving movement, ladies!  Don't they deserve it? Don't your marriages and families deserve it?

I'm sure there will be days where I don't feel like being a good wife or that I at least won't have a whole lot to share in the department but my goal is to keep it up.  A friend told me that if you do something for 25 {or is it 23, maybe it's 27} days straight it becomes a routine, part of your life, and so I'm hoping that applies to this "exercise" as well.

9 comments:

  1. Research "says" it only takes 21 days to start a new habit! Love, love, love all these post and I mean it! This has totally changed my days with my Hubby! Thanks for sharing... serrrrrslllyyyy

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  2. You definitely inspire us. I cooked 'lunch' for my hubby to take to work tonight for the first time in awhile. I get really lazy about things like that. I'm busy staying at home with our son, pregnant, and taking classes...but not enough that I should neglect my hubby.

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  3. You make me want to be a better woman. Until I get home and he has shit all over the house and peed on the seat and then I just say fuck it.

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  4. Were your ears ringing last night? Another blogger and I were emailing about how your challenge has inspired our challenges!

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  5. Love this post. It really is an inspiring challenge that each of us can learn something from!

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  6. Keep it up girl! You're doing a fabulous job and I love reading your 31 days. It is a great reminder for me ('cause let's just admit it, we all need a reminder sometimes!) and I can relate to a lot of what you say. Hooray for new healthy, happy habits!!

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  7. I've really enjoyed reading your posts and I'm not even married (or dating, but that's another story for another day)...It's just nice seeing the positivity? I'm not sure if that's the right word. I can just see the happiness through your writing. Doing something that makes your husband happy is definitely making you happier :-)

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  8. You are an awesome wife, I know it, and I think it's great you want to improve, 'cause I think we all can. I mean, they don't make it easy - let's be honest. ;) But neither do we. Keep on inspiring, lady. :)

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