April 25, 2016

Un-apologetically YOU

I'm a mom.
I cuss.
My friends are like my family.
I have three dogs but I am not a dog lover.
I get all my news from Twitter.
I go to church.
My husband is my best friend.
I am not overly affectionate.
I am stubborn.
I've had the same best friend since kindergarten.
I like country music.
I want to live near water.
I was engaged two years before I met Jimmy.
I'm a wife.
Pizza and chocolate chip cookies are my weakness.
I feel my best when I'm tan.
I drink beer.
I like trying new things.
I make bad jokes.
Makeup makes me feel pretty.
I like to read.
I love getting massages.
I'm sarcastic.
I don't like running.
I have never used my college degree.
I have three tattoos and want more.
I'm loud.
I like getting dressed up but have just as much fun riding our RZR through mud.
I tend to overthink everything.
I'm a morning person.
I hate winter.
I don't always think before I speak.
I'm opinionated.
I have been known to overshare.
I love reality TV.
Working out makes me happy.
I have terrible taste in movies.
I wear a bikini to the pool.
I drive a big ole truck.
I am honest.
I am an only child.
I talk a lot.
I am a people pleaser.
I have no desire to travel.
I got busted for underage drinking at 15.
I don't want anymore kids.
I can be nosy.
I love to laugh.

The other day Kendall and I were reading a book and the moral of the story was "be you, you're cool" and I couldn't help but turn it into a teaching moment.  I told her how "cool", unique, special, wonderfully made she is.  How there is only one Kendall Paige Dew on this planet and that's really neat.  I told her that God created her just how He saw fit and that is the most amazing thing about her.  She didn't say much, just smiled, but I know it will resonate with her because we will have this conversation many times through the years.

You see I've always been the type to go with the flow. I never really wanted to do anything to stand out.  I wore the same thing everyone else wore.  I cut my hair the same as all of my friends.  I didn't play any sports because I didn't want to put myself out there.  It wasn't until I hit my late twenties/early thirties that I started to feel comfortable in my own skin.  I missed out on a lot of cool experiences because I was just afraid {of what!?}.  I wish I would have been more confident in myself to do the things I feared.  I believe that when we are pushed outside of our comfort zone is when we find out what we like/dislike and who we really are.

Starting this blog was out of my comfort zone.  I remember when I started writing I would get embarrassed when I found out people I knew {IRL} were reading it.  The first time someone from high school told me they read my blog I wanted to crawl into a hole and die.  It was so scary.  I hate to admit but that "fear" still creeps in when I'm writing, every once in a while, and I'm not sure where it comes from.  I don't want people to judge me.  I want to make everyone happy.  I want to be liked {who doesn't?}.  So knowing that that those things aren't always going to happen makes me want to only post the light, fluffy, easy stuff- but that's not who I am.

This is me, the good, the bad and the ugly- like me or not. I'm not going to apologize for who I am anymore.  I've realized something over the years- not everyone is going to like me and that's OK.  If everyone liked me and agreed with me it would make this world a very boring place,wouldn't it?  One of the cool things about life is differing opinions because although you may not agree with them you can always learn something from them.  Well all add value to the world just by being un-apologetically US.

So what makes YOU unique?


April 21, 2016

I Won't Apologize For My "Messy" House

I've come to the realization, I will never have a perfectly clean house like you see on Pinterest.  Maybe in 20 years, assuming my children move out of the house then, I can and will but for now it's not an option and I'm OK with that.

That's not to say my house is filthy, it's not, it's "lived in" though.  If you come over to my house on any given day you might find toys that have somehow made their way from the playroom to the living room.  There will inevitably be dog toys to trip over.  There might even be a few dishes in the sink or pans on the stove from breakfast.  Remnants from lunch might be lingering, depending on what time you show up- my kids are slow, drive-by eaters.  And, no matter how many times I clean it, my sliding glass door will always have finger/nose prints on it because I gave up on that a long time ago.
James helping me clean the kitchen sink.  Little helpers are the best.

You won't, however, be nervous to sit on my couch {I've been to houses that I was afraid to sit down anywhere}.  My floors are vacuumed/swept, all surface areas are dusted and things that don't belong to children or dogs are in their rightful places.  My bathrooms aren't growing science experiments.  My kitchen counters are wiped down.  It's "company ready", whatever that means.

Normally when people come over and things are out of place I apologize.  I normally say something like, "oh don't mind this..." as I tuck it in it's spot.  But why?  No one, and I mean no one, has ever come into my house and thought, "ew, gross..." and chances are good that they probably never will so why do I apologize for living in my home?

Well no more.  I will not apologize for toys being strewn all over because it means my kids are happy and playing.  I won't say sorry for their being dishes in the sink because chances are good that me and the kids did some baking that day.  I won't apologize for the beds not being made because, well, I don't care about that stuff because no one goes into our bedrooms, usually.  I will not apologize for the crayons and coloring books spread all over the kitchen table because it means Kendall is being creative.  Hell I won't even feel bad about the Play-Doh smashed into the kitchen rug because it means my kids were using their imagination.

In a blink of an eye these things will no longer be.  My kids will have friends who they hang out with vs playing with toys.  Pretty soon we will be out of the Play-Doh and coloring stages of life and I will miss it, truly.  I will be able to steam-mop the floors without fear of a dog or kid walking in with muddy feet.  My sliding glass door will no longer be covered in finger/nose prints.  My kitchen sink will be empty.  Kendall will choose baking with friends over baking with me.  When all of that happens my heart will hurt, I'm sure of it.

There was a day and time where I would be embarrassed if someone came over and something was out of place or there were toys all over the place.  I can remember times where Jimmy would say "______ is stopping by" and I would immediately panic and go into a cleaning frenzy in 2.5 seconds.  And then I realized that there are far more important things in life than having a spotless house and making memories with my kids is one of them.  

What's the saying? "Cleaning and scrubbing can wait 'til tomorrow. For babies grow up we've learned to our sorrow, So quiet down cobwebs and dust go to sleep I'm rocking my baby, and babies don't keep."  Yeah, that.  

April 20, 2016

SO WHAT! Wednesday

This week I'm saying SO WHAT if...

  • I love Erika Jayne/Girardi.  I think she's hilarious, says it how it is and IS fabulous.  
  • I really want to watch Magic Mike XXL on our girls weekend {next week}.
  • I kinda want to run another 5K.  WHY!?
  • I look forward to grocery shopping.
  • There are two things I cannot resist- chocolate chip cookies and pizza.
  • Jimmy and I binge watched Fixer Upper last night.  How are we just now realizing how amazing Chip & Jo are?!
  • I have issues with coffee and sometimes I like the Keurig and sometimes I like the whole pot Bunn so I leave both out on the counter.
  • I feel "healthy" when I drink Kombucha.
  • Even though I'm a Beachbody coach I SCREW UP.  I fell off the wagon HARD February-March but that's OK because I'm human, above all else.
  • I want to start a garden but I hate yard work.
  • I have never seen any episodes of Star Wars {and have no plans to} even though my husband is a fanatic. 
  • Bethenny Frankel on Snapchat is my favorite thing ever.
  • We are considering getting chickens.  Why not? 
  • I want YOUR help picking my next workout program.
  • I have more posts that just SO WHAT! Wednesday's in my drafts just can't find the time to sit down and publish them. SWW's are easy.
  • I'm always early, everywhere.  I hate being late/when people are late.   
What are you saying SO WHAT to this week?

April 14, 2016

SO WHAT! Wednesday

This week I'm saying SO WHAT if...

  • I forgot all about SWW yesterday.  Funny because for the last two weeks I've thought Wednesday was Thursday but this week I actually felt like Wednesday was Wednesday and yet I forgot my post. Things that make ya go hmm...
  • I only watch RHNYC for Bethenny.
  • My kids love Snapchat filters. 
  • I had to drive a Ford Fusion yesterday {rental while my truck got an oil change} and while it was a SUPER nice car I hated it.  I felt like I was going to be run over by every big truck that passed me.  
  • I kinda want to give Kendall a bigger girl room makeover.  She's so over the stuff she has right now and I feel like sprucing things up a bit.
  • Coffee is my favorite part of the day.
  • I get really excited when they turn my total around at Aldi.  I'm always BLOWN away.
  • Our dryer was broken all weekend and once Tuesday came around I've never been so excited to do laundry.
  • I'm in love with Chelsea and Cole {Teen Mom 2} and think they are ridiculously cute together.  Baby voices and all.
  • We inherited a turtle this weekend and I <3 him.="" li="">
  • I'm having such amazing results with my Shakeology cleanse {down 5+lbs in 3 days} that I'm thinking about extending it through the weekend.  Weekends are always my downfall so continuing would help keep me set up for success.
  • I'm an over-grammer when the weather is nice.
  • The only time I get the mail is when I'm expecting something.  
  • I catch up on the DVR while walking on the treadmill because I'm neurotic. 
What are you saying SO WHAT to this week?

April 11, 2016

Favorite Things

From time to time I like to share some of my recent product finds.  I relied on "must have" lists when I was pregnant with both kids and this is something like that.  As a new mom you want it all- whatever is on that list, you must have it, am I right?  Well this list is a compilation of things we've been using for a long enough time to vouch for their awesomeness.  This isn't sponsored or paid for these are just a few things we use and love and I want to share them with you because I believe in them.


Munchkin Miracle 360 sippy cup.  Every mom is on the hunt for the "perfect sippy cup" and it seems they don't exist but they do.  I got these back before Christmas and shared them with you and since then I've ordered a bunch more.  We LOVE these cups.  They don't leak {finally}, they wash up well, they don't have a million pieces and they are pretty cheap.  It teaches kids how to eventually drink from a big kid/grown up cup too, bonus.  It took James a minute {literally} to figure out how to use it but now they are his {and my} preferred/go- to cup.  Love.

Spot It!  We are obsessed with these games.  We have the Frozen version and the Shopkins and I'm ready for another, maybe one for James.  First of all, HOW DO
THEY DO IT!?  Literally no matter what two cards you have there is a match,  HOW?  It blows my mind.  Second of all it's nice and small so it fits in my purse easily.  I take them with us everywhere.  This weekend we were 20 minutes early to a Girl Scout event so Kendall and I sat in my truck and played a round.  We take these to restaurants to make waiting a little easier too.  It's a simple and fast game and we love that.

Re-Play divided plates.  Just like with sippy cups, we have 945,385,103 plates and bowls.  These are so nice and durable.  They are made of thick, recycled plastic and feel like they should be way more expensive than they are.  The sections are big and deep so you can put things like cereal with milk in them and not have to worry about it spilling out.  And dividers because kids are picky and don't like their food mixing {or maybe that's just my kids}.  I really love all the Re-Play products but these plates are by far my favorite.

Maxboost iPhone case.  This is a mom item, you're welcome.  I bought this case in December after shattering my screen for the second time.  The reviews were amazing and the price was way better than Otterbox or Lifeproof cases.  I was skeptical so I bought the glass screen protector to go with it,  I am amazed, you guys.  I have dropped my phone, face down, more times than I care to admit and there is not a scratch, crack, chip or anything.  Plus it's a pretty gold/pink combo and it's not big and bulky.  It slides into my back pocket but it's not so slippery that you worry about it flying out of your hands.

Yeti Rambler.  I am so bad at getting my daily water intake.  So bad.  The only time I was great with it was when I was pregnant and even then I was just OK at getting the right amount of ozs.  I realized why...when it's not cold anymore I don't drink it.  Enter the Yeti.  This baby keeps ice for-ever.  Like, overnight in a boat in the middle of summer and this baby will still have ice in it the next morning.  Not only that but it keeps ish hot just as long.  I poured some coffee to take while we waited in car-rider line and I couldn't even drink it for 20 minutes because it was so hot.  I love it.

Nike Free 5.0.  So I have three pair of tennis shoes that I rotate but no matter what these are always my faves.   They are so light-weight and comfortable- it almost feels like you aren't wearing any shoes, but in a good way.  My favorite thing about them is they are quiet!  I know that probably sounds weird but when you are working out at home and jumping, running, etc on hard-wood floors while your kids are asleep you try to be QUIET.  Both of my other tennis shoes squeak and/or are loud when I'm jumping but not these!  I love that about them, did I say that?



Melissa & Doug crayon set.  Do you guys have these yet?  We've had them for about 3 years now and I feel like I've been holding on to this secret for far too long.  These crayons rock my socks.  First of all, they are in this awesome little carrying case to keep them all organized.  Second of all, I have left them in my car on the HOTTEST summer days and they haven't melted!  This is another thing I always have on me/in the car for random bored moments.  They aren't as bright as Crayola crayons but they do the trick.

Vera Bradley Turn-Lock Wallet.  OK listen to me, I am NOT a Vera Bradley person.  I find most of her things to be very ugly and old lady {sorry, no offense}, just not my style.  However, a few years {5} ago someone had posted this {style} wallet on IG and I loved it, went out and bought it and have been carrying it ever since.  It's the perfect size, holds everything {and then some} and did I mention has lasted 5 years!?  It's just now starting to show it's age and I'm looking to get the exact same one but maybe a different pattern.

Aden + Anais Daydream Blanket.  This is something I love and will continue to love for years.  When I was pregnant with Kendall I didn't really know about a+a blankets but when I was pregnant with James they were one of my first purchases.  I can remember getting his Dream Blanket and saying, "man I wish they made these for adults!!!".  Little did I know that all I had to do was google "aden + anais adult blanket" and the Daydream Blanket showed up.  I got it for Christmas in 2013 and I have taken it on every vacation and camping trip since.

So there's a few of my favorite things, I hope you found some new goodies too.  Do you use any of these products?  What are some of your favorite things I should add to my ever growing wish list?


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April 6, 2016

SO WHAT! Wednesday

This week I'm saying SO WHAT if...

  • I have been doing two-a-days lately.  T25+treadmill {to catch up on the DVR}.
  • My chalk wall in my kitchen still has birthday messages on it.  My birthday was Feb 28.
  • I'm kind of obsessed with Snapchat.
  • I love Fuller House.  I know it's cheesy and corny and the acting is awful but do you remember Full House?  It was the exact same and we all loved it too.
  • I am wearing my senior prom dress to Kendall's fairy-tale ball with the Girl Scouts this weekend.  I'm kind of excited about it.
  • I love grocery shopping {but only if I can go alone}.
  • Thomas Rhett is my imaginary boyfriend.
  • I hate that gossip shows and mags are reporting that there's trouble in paradise with Ben & Lauren.  Seriously if they break up it might be worse than when Nick & Jess split.
  • I threw two bags of toys away while Kendall was at school last Friday.  I'm a mean mom.
  • I'm super obsessed with these tees from AE.  Like I need two in every color STAT. 
  • I totally alternate between water and coffee all day, every day.
  • I'm still rocking an iPhone 5s.  I complain about it all the time yet never actually take the time to upgrade.
  • I found out T25 was on sale {only $60!!} last night and geeked out a little, OK a lot, because I have NEVER seen it on sale in over two years!  What!?  So excited for so many people to take advantage and see how awesome this program is! 
  • Sometimes I hate having dogs.
  • I'm legit jealous of my five-year-old's hair.
  • I'm really surprised Farrah and/or Janelle are still on Teen Mom/OG.  Their behavior to everyone they come in contact with is disgusting and I wish MTV would fire them already.

April 5, 2016

April Goals

I've seen a lot of other bloggers share their monthly goals and while I'm not quite Type A enough for all that I do think it's important to set goals.  I like the idea of setting smaller goals rather than focusing on one, big, overwhelming goal.  Baby steps, progress not perfection, it's about the journey, not the destination, and all those other cliche sayings, right?

Anywho...I keep mentioning this feeling I have, wanting/craving/needing more.  Maybe this is a way for me to sort out those feelings and hopefully narrow down and figure out what that means, exactly.  Maybe?  So let's see what I can accomplish in April, shall we?


  • Finish T25 . I finished alpha last Friday and it felt so good.  I stuck to the entire schedule and only had to make up a few days along the way {Saturdays and Sundays are rest days so if I missed one through the week I just made it up then}.  I am feeling so good about my progress this time.  Today starts beta round and I can't wait to get started.
  • Log all food in MyFitnessPal.  I go through periods where I love MFP and then other times where I just stop logging altogether.  Truth be told I need it in my life if for no other reason than accountability.  Just when I think I have a grasp on this whole portion control/eating thing I don't.  
  • Take a trip with my girlfriends.  It's been three years since me and my besties took a weekend to ourselves and this month we will finally get another, much needed trip.
  • Save.  I want to be able to fund my girls trip and our upcoming night away/Dave Matthews concert trip all by myself.  I'm talking gas, room and board, food, you name it I don't want Jimmy to pay a dime.
  • Read my devotional daily.  I go through weeks where I'm reading it daily and then I forget about it for days/weeks at a time.  I really want to make a better effort to read it every day this month.  Each one is short and sweet and hits a big message so there's no reason to skip it.
  • Wash my face nightly.  I'm awful with my skincare and very, very rarely wash my face at night.  I sleep in my makeup all the time and yes, I know, it's awful.  I want to be someone who looks good without or with very minimal makeup and the only way that is going to happen is if I keep up with a routine.
  • Create a cleaning schedule.  Call me crazy but a clean house makes me happy.  For the most part our house is in order, depending on the day, but I'd love to get on a schedule so I don't feel like I'm doing all the things, all the time.  I've seen some floating around out there but I need to find one that best fits me.
  • Fill up at least four trash bags of things to donate/throw away.  Last Friday I went through the playroom and filled two grocery shopping bags full and it felt so good to get rid of things that were broken/missing pieces/junk. I can't wait to do the same with our closets, pantry and storage areas too.
  • Pack Jimmy's lunch.  This is his love language.  He loves it when I say, "oh hey I packed your lunch today" {and so does our bank account}.  It's a simple thing I can do to show I care and love him and I don't do it nearly enough.  
  • Be more intentional with my time.  This goes for my time spent with my kids, my husband, myself.  I have always said, "I suck at time management" and then realized I am the only one who can change that.  It's no one's fault but my own that I feel overwhelmed at times and feel as though I am constantly doing something.  That, hopefully, changes this month.
OK I think that's a good start.  Like I said, I am so not Type A so this whole "planning" thing is foreign to me but I think this is going to help tremendously.  Hopefully.