October 22, 2012

31 Days: Days 19-22

Wow, I'm really getting to be quite the slacker with updating on my 31 Days progress but I figured that would happen. I mean it's not like I daily do things like organize a closet, switch bathrooms, and, well, I do make lunches every day.  But every day is a work in progress and every day I do have to remind myself to bite my tongue, let things slide and {sometimes} be nice!

Today's post is brought to you by Sweetest Day.  You know, that Hallmark holiday that is basically Valentine's Day in October and yet another day for one of two things to happen.  1.  Women get all bitchy, annoying, "my husband/boyfriend didn't even x, y, z! IT'S SWEETEST DAY!!!".  Or 2. Your Instagram feed gets clogged with flowers, cards and other nonsense to celebrate this "holiday".  Either way, it annoys me.  Oh, I should have mentioned that this post may ruffle some feathers.

How's this for Sweetest Day, my husband was at a strip club for Sweetest Day.  Boom.  Who had the happy lovey, dovey day now?  Yeah.  And guess what?  I didn't care.  Nope, not one bit.  You know why? Because I am awesome Because it was for his good friend's bachelor party, he doesn't go normally, he hasn't been since his own bachelor party 3 years ago and he doesn't like them.

I trust my husband with 100% certainty to know that he would NEVER willingly want to go see another naked woman.  When he got home he couldn't wait to tell me how ridiculous it all was, how gross {most of} the girls were, how he spent more money on gyros at the street meat stand than he did on anything else that night.  And?  I believe him.

I know some people reading are probably appalled right now.  I know some are sitting behind their computers thinking my husband is a pig.  That's OK.  Different strokes for different folks.  The way I see it, he's a man and if once every 3 years he goes to a strip club to celebrate his friends nuptials, so be it.  Now, if he were going on a random Tuesday just because, well yeah I'd have a problem too.  

The next day, yesterday, we went to his friends house warming/birthday party and some of the guys were there from the night before and Jimmy thought it was so cool that he could talk about the happenings in front of me and he had nothing to hide.  There was no side-eye from his friends no, "OMG should we talk about the lap dance the groom got?!" because I'm OK with it.

I'm the cool wife.  Yep, that's me!

12 comments:

  1. Oh girl. My ex went to them in Alaska for going aways and what not. I have even been with him for a joint bachelor/bachelorette party. I think if you TRUST then there isn't an issue. I personally don't like them, but won't have a hissy fit over it. I have never heard of sweetest day. wtf?! I don't even care for Valentine's Day. Ha!

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  2. I don't see anything wrong with going once in a blue moon. When we start putting hard stipulations like you can never ever go then there will be stipulations for women. Like I would never go to a strip club, I seriously would be so embarrassed. But I did watch Magic Mike, my husband didn't even care. Just as if he went to a bachelor party at a strip club I wouldn't. Neither one of us really like that type of thing anyway so sweat. I don't think people should worry so much about what others do in their marriage. Things you might be okay with others won't be and visa verse. Thank goodness we can all be different. Ha

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  3. You go lady.I had never even heard of this nonsense shit until you mentioned it this morning. Fuck it.

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  4. LOL! I told my hubby I won Wife of the Year when we began the fertility process last February. He had to go to a room (also known as the Skank Tank) and make a deposit. He was mortified initially...then he sent text pictures of all the porn that I was encouraging him to look at! So every month from Feb-July, he got to look at porn. He was impressed with the way they updated the 'stash' and the videos!

    I have no problem with strip clubs, as long as I know there is trust and it isn't a 'problem' and he comes home to me! The last one he went to was his brothers bachelor party almost three years ago and he was mortified by these women, who as he said looked like little girls...not interested!

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  5. I LOVE reading your posts about being a better wife. I'm engaged and I'm trying to be a better fiance right now and I'm learning such great lessons from you! Thanks for helping my relationship too!!

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  6. I think going to a strip club occasionally for a special event is no big deal. As I tell my hubby I don't care if you look just don't touch. If he went every weekend that would bother me. He thought they were more fun in his younger years, he's pretty much grown out of that kinda thing.

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  7. Great post and amen sister!!!! Love to hear all these open minded ladies commenting that they trust their men and it really isn't a big deal. I don't think there should ever be a time when it is necessary to forbid a significant other from anything.

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  8. Am I the only person who has not heard of Sweetest Day? No clue such a thing existed. And yes, most men who have been to 1- college or 2- a bachelor party have been to a strip club. Though, I don't want any details when he gets home ;-)

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  9. Um yea. I don't have one single clue what Sweetest day is. And neither did my IG feed apparently....hahah.

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  10. The waiter that night told our party it was sweetest day then he shared a strange story. So yea...

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  11. My husband went to a bachelor party this weekend, and there were three guys who didn't go to the SC, because their wives told them they couldn't go. I don't get it. Who cares? It's not like they go all the time. I guess I am the "Cool Wife" too.

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  12. my husband STILL gets grief 10 years later because the day after his bachelor party, he came home and told me everything that happened. All of his friends are like "you told her that?" and I still married him!

    I could care less. I trust my husband and I know he comes home to me!

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