October 10, 2012

31 Days: Days 9 & 10

No, I haven't abandoned the 31 day challenge, I just was too busy being a good wife to update yesterday.  I kid, kinda.  Actually yesterday, even though I had a kid-free day, I dropped the ball on dinner.  I had nothing planned, at all.  So when Jimmy texted me mid-day to see if I wanted to go out to dinner I was more than happy to oblige and omit the fact that I didn't plan anything anyway.

Going out to dinner is such a treat these days, something we don't indulge in very often, thanks to The Terrible Twos, but last night was different.  Sure Kendall acted up a bit but nothing to get embarrassed over and we actually enjoyed a pretty decent meal for the first time in a while.

Last night I was pretty exhausted {no I'm not pregnant} and so instead of staying up to update my progress I went to bed, with my husband, and it was nice.  Normally Jimmy and I always go to bed at the same time but lately I've been staying up a little past him and it was nice to just shut down the computer and my mind and snuggle in.

I think that's the point I needed to learn.  Sometimes what's most important is just shutting down.  Turning off the TV, computers, and just being present.  In the current times technology is consuming our lives, iPhones, iPads, social media, we are always connected.  If the phone rings we feel like we have to answer it, when an email comes in we have to reply immediately.  But why?  At what expense?  Sad to say but often times I have put my family on hold because, "I need to finish this blog post" or refresh Instagram for the one millionth time today.

So that's what I'm learning and practicing today.  To turn it off and turn my wife-mom brain on, more. That's not to say I'm jumping ship and abandoning this blog, because I can assure you I'm not.  I just need to refocus, prioritize and make sure that my family isn't missing out because of my "hobby".  I need to start waking up before The Toddler again, doing my "hobby" during nap only, engaging in more hands-on, toddler friendly chores during the day.  It's a juggling act for sure.

I know that I am a work in progress but I feel like I've already made such great strides in being a better wife and this will only make me, our relationship, better.  It will be worth it.


  1. I love your 31 day challenge! I could always use a few good tips. Hehe! Out to dinner with a two year old can be challenging! My daughter is almost 4 and it still is sometimes difficult!
    I am also doing the 31 day challenge.

  2. Good for you girl. Turning OFF is so important. I'm learning that more and more. I like busy. I like ON...but each night while sitting at the kitchen table sewing dresses for the 5th week in a row, almost every night, I just can't wait till they're done to sit over there by that man on the couch. Here's to STOPPING and paying attention to what matters most. Thank you for being a good example!

  3. Great and very accurate post. Good reminder. Thanks :)

  4. You mentioned the 2 week wait like a week ago right? When will you announce on here?

  5. I just discovered your blog from another and I hope you don't mind me sticking around for a while- especially since this post really resonated with me! It is so so so true!

  6. I'm loving your 31 series, I'm striving to be a better wife myself.

  7. I totally agree with this ... so so hard but so so important. We're all works in progress!

  8. I agree with needing to turn off all the social media, the blogging, etc. - family time is so important! But so is time for yourself, like your spa day or getting together with friends or mindlessly flipping through Instagram. It's fun to connect but it's definitely a delicate balance. Great reminder!!