August 9, 2013

Things My Husband and I Will Never Agree On

When I met Jimmy I knew he was going to be my last first date.  There was something about him that was
different from all the other boys I had ever "dated".  He didn't even try to kiss me after our first date, something that I still admire about him to this day.

You know when you are in a new relationship you love whatever the other one loves.  Sushi?  My favorite!  Dave Matthews Band?  I've never missed a concert!  Dogs?  Love them!  It's all so new and easy and you think, "We are a match made in heaven!  There's nothing we can't agree on!".  And then you get married.

It's true that we are pretty much the definition of Brad Paisley's song I'm Still a Guy {"You see a deer you see Bambi, I see antlers up on the wall..."}.  He's the manliest of men {a hunter, hard worker, loves being outdoors} and I am a true girly girl {hate getting dirty, love shopping, most comfortable in dresses}.  And while we do agree on and share a lot of common interests there are just some things that we'll never agree on.

Movies & Books.  I've talked about how torturous movie night is in The Dew house and I wish I could report that it's gotten better over time but then I'd be lying.  He likes action, sci-fi, adventure, keep you on the edge of your seat stuff and I like comedies, romantic comedies and basically anything that leaves you feeling good when it's over.  I don't like things set in mid-evil times, I don't like things set in the future, and I definitely don't like movies where they speak in Old English {I suck}.  Same goes with books.  I read to escape so mainly I read fictional books and ones that usually have a humorous undertone.  Jimmy would prefer to read far-out things {Star Wars, Orson Scott Card books, etc} and I just can't even grasp things that are so far from reality.

Dogs.  When we met we each had our own dogs and they just so happened to look like twins separated by about 15lbs.  They were our babies, we love{d} them, and then we had Kendall.  Now that we have a child{ren} I am over dogs.  That's not to say I don't love our dogs, I do, but they are just one more thing on my list.  Some times I feel like they are actually more work than my child{ren}.  If I had it my way we'd never get any more dogs but Jimmy insists that we'll always have dogs {and he's trying to push for a 3rd at the moment}.

Cleanliness.  Not our own, bodily cleanliness but rather the cleanliness of our house at any given time.  I could look around right now and give you a laundry list of things that need done, laundry in the dryer needs folded, toys need picked up, the wood floors need mopped, sun room needs swept, trash needs taken out, lunch dishes need put in the dishwasher, etc.  If Jimmy were to come home right now he would tell me {he actually did tell me last night} that the house looks immaculate.  While I love that he is not the type of man to come home, look at a messy house and say, "what did you do all day?" but at the same time I wish that a company ready house was something that he thought was as important as I do.

Taxidermy.  My husband is an avid hunter and now fisher.  He hunts all the things, deer, duck, pheasant, quail, turkey, elk, hell he even goes "shed" hunting in the late season where all he's doing is finding broken off antlers.  So yeah he has a lot of "wall decorations" and is quite proud of each and every one of them.  I cannot handle it.  I had a deer head fall on me when I was younger and I think it scarred me for life.  I think it looks tacky {unless you're in a lodge} and it's definitely not my style.  However, I cannot deny the pride and happiness that these trophies make him.  Thankfully we've been able to come to a compromise on this subject and as long as I don't have to look at them, he may hang them.  So they go in the basement.  End of story.

Country vs. City.  Jimmy loves the country, he loves having land, he loves that our neighbors are not close by, he loves the quiet and being able to see the stars at night.  While I love aspects of the country life {it is nice to see the stars so bright} I miss having Chipotle down the road more.  If I had it my way we'd live about 20 minutes closer to Columbus, especially now that we have Kendall.  At first I thought the country life would be nice but now I just want to walk out my front door and take my child{ren} on a walk instead of loading up the stroller and driving 10ish minutes somewhere.  We've actually found a neighborhood close by that is the best of both worlds.  Large lots {bigger than what we currently have, actually} but still in a subdivision so I can go on those stroller rides, perfection.  Now if only we could afford to build we'd be doing alright.

Fortunately, for us, these "issues" aren't really issues in the grand scheme of things.  I'm thankful that if these are the biggest hurdles we have to jump then we're doing alright.  What are some silly things that you and your significant other can never seem to get on the same page about?

17 comments:

  1. I read this post and thought I was reading about my husband and I, except for the sci-fi. And on the third dog...don't do it! We have a 7 week old baby and just got an 8 week old puppy and I'm starting to lose my mind!

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  2. Haha, all the hunting/outdoors stuff reminds me of my husband and I! He LOVES the outdoors and hunting and if he could be a mountain man and live in a tree, he'd love it.

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  3. Totally agree on the movie situation!! It's the same in our house. We've lived together for 2 1/2 years..not married yet but soon and have a dog and a cat. I can't imagine our house without them. But I can see how your thoughts on them might change when you have kids also. It's a lot of work!

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  4. I must not have been reading for long enough, because I think that's the first picture of you and jimmy I have seen! Loved this post!

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  5. This is so like our relationship, too. My husband and I are total opposites and the only thing we ever have to work at in our relationship is usually agreeing on something! My husband's favorite movie is also Castaway... I can't understand watching a movie that doesn't have anyone talking for the majority of it. He loves it.

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  6. This sounds just like my husband and I. The third dog seriously killed it for me and now they are all just more of a pain than anything. My husband hunts and has the lovely animal heads for proof too. Gross. They stay in the garage. He is also all about country living while I am a city girl. I like convenience.

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  7. Pets- I try to tell everyone I know not to get a dog if you plan on having kids in the next 10 years. No one listens to me! I got a bunny in college figuring when I was a teacher it could be the class pet. Well that didn't happen and bunnies can live like 10 years and they shit a lot! Praise The Lord he died when Chase was maybe 6 months old of natural causes I swear. I had mom friends ask how I did it! He was so neglected I swear he just gave up poor thing! But now I don't want another pet for a LONG time! It sucks when you want to go on vacation. Plus we found out Chase is allergic to cats (pretty bad) because honestly I could deal with a cat before a dog but he's allergic to dogs too. It doesn't seem as bad. He is around them and does ok but if we had one it might be a different story.

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  8. This post made me smile. I definitely know what you mean about trying to choose a movie and keeping a house ready for company. I think that's one thing we can't seem to get on the same page about- putting dishes in the dishwasher, picking up random clutter piles, and collecting cups from around the house. Granted he's not that bad, I think I'm just more of a neat freak. :)

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  9. Are you married to my husband? I mean really. Every one of these described him to a T. He shed hunts too (along with anyother animal he is allowed to shoot/catch/etc.). We don't have a livable basement so all his dead animals go in out office, right smack dab in the middle of the house. It's annoying and gaudy, but I can't deny him wall space I can only give him a room. That was the only room I didn't care about, mainly because it has paneling on the walls... with etched in it. In my house I am asking for the third dog. The one thing we can not agree on is vacations. I want to go everyother year with kids and everyother year without... he doesn't want to go at all. We were both born and raised in the country so we will stay where we are and raise our children the same way. I walk my quarter mile drive way or the road when we go for our family walks.

    Thanks for yet another fun post.

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  10. I love this post! The biggest disagreement my husband and I have is with food. He grew up in a family where there was no such thing as leftovers--you ate until the table was empty. So, me making less than he is used to is something we've had to compromise.
    Our Fairy Tale

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  11. Haha I agree with Christi, are you married to my husband? God forbid he watch a romantic comedy, reality show, or a syndicated sitcom episode. Except, he always turns on sportscenter and that background noise makes me want to pull my hair out!

    I think its kind of fun not having everything in common. If Chris enjoyed accompanying me to my weekly Target trips, I wouldn't get to buy everything I do. Pick and choose. I like to believe we agree where it counts.

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  12. Haha!!!! Love this post!! ;) My mom and dad are the same way about dogs, except it's the other way around!

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  13. Yes yes and yes! How funny that our relationships are so similar. We are currently living in the city while my hubs finishes up school but he can't wait to get back to the country. I totally can and am dreading the move.

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  14. I'm pretty sure I could have written this post about J and I..except maybe for the dog part. The two biggest would be movie night and cleanliness. J gets so upset that I won't watch his crazy futuristic or superhero action-packed movies but it's just too much. I'll give in now and then but I usually am SO bored. It also drives him crazy that I say the house is always "a mess" when he says papers on the counter don't count. I think it's because (in the summer) I'm home much more. We should have Josh and Jimmy become movie buddies and we can go shopping with the girls (and James)!

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  15. OMG this is GREAT. I should do a post like this. Totally relate, especially the movies and the cleanliness! Oh, these men... ;)

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  16. Seriously - we could be twins and our husbands could be twins!! And I could've written this post word for word myself!!

    We have all the same problems in our household, and we choose to compromise on almost all of them - one week his movie, one week my choice. He can hunt and keep animals but they go in his office or man cave. He wants to live on a farm and I want the city for good schools so we have chosen a forest estate on the outskirt of the city.

    So far, win-win for everyone :)
    x

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  17. I am right there with you on not being able to see those dead animals on walls. That's just something I can't do.

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