I recently heard that the kids are playing sports a little bit differently these days. As in no one loses anymore, everyone's a "winner". I even read a quote that said, "there are no losers, you're just the last winner" and while I can appreciate this sort of word play, I do not think that it's helpful for children to grow up with this kind of mentality.
In sports there is a clear winner and loser, period. One team scores more than the other, that team is the winner. It's easy, even for me, to understand. You can turn on the TV at any given point to see some sort of game on and the score is clearly stated right there in the corner of your 48" TV. There is a winner and a loser in every game.
I think about the kids who are raised like this and I think about when they are adults, out in the real world. I can't imagine how they will handle situations like job promotions. I know the reason behind the "everyone wins" mentality is to teach kids to have fun, worry less, feel good and I support that, I think that sports should be fun and can be fun even with winners and losers. But I don't think that it sets them up to be reasonable adults.
Imagine, if you will, how these kids will handle competing with another person for a raise only to not get it. Unfortunately there is a winner and a loser in this situation. It's frustrating enough to be turned down for a job but when you are raised with an "everyone wins" mentality it's got to be even more devastating because you've probably never experienced let down like that before.
I guess it's easy for me to say, I've yet to experience the kids sports world, but I'd hope to teach my kids to be gracious losers. You can be bummed, sure, but you congratulate the other team and do better next time. You try, you do your best and that's all you can do. Sometimes your best isn't good enough because there is someone better out there. But there is also someone who isn't as good, someone that you are better than. Someone will win and someone will lose and, to me, that's OK.
So, what do you think of "no score sports"? Do you think it's helpful for children to grow up thinking that it's all fun and games or do you think that there should be a winner and a loser? What about the effect it has on them as adults?