OK, great. Sound like you? It sure as heck sounds like me. In fact, one night Jimmy and I were both sitting on the couch with our phones, scrolling our IG feeds and saying things like, "did you see THIS one?" knowing that we both follow a lot of the same friends. It was kind of pathetic and Jimmy even said to me, "let's put our phones away, this is stupid". And he was right. Instead of enjoying the peace and quiet and some very rare but much needed husband-wife time, we were on our phones.
Are we that boring to each other that we need to find pleasure and entertainment from our phones and the happenings of other people's lives? I sure hope not because what a sad, long life we will have.
When we are hanging out with friends I have been trying to enjoy their company. Put the phone in my diaper bag and just be in the moment. The virtual world cannot compare to the company of friends and laughter of our children playing together.
Do you take your phone to bed with you? I do. I know you aren't supposed to but I have always. Jimmy uses his for an alarm so he brings his to bed too. Jimmy falls asleep at the drop of a dime so a lot of times I lay in bed scrolling through all my various feeds and checking emails. In the morning the first thing I do is grab my phone and pick up where I left off the night before. Pathetic, I know.
I think about it a lot, this love/hate relationship with technology. While I love being able to keep up with my friends and family with the click of a button, in the palm of my hand, I love finding new ideas, recipes, crafts, outfits, etc, I love sharing my ideas, recipes, outfits, etc it is also very very difficult to keep up. It's time consuming. It sometimes makes me feel inferior.
I think about the generations before us, how they didn't have these conveniences and how simple life must have been "back then". Now I don't know that I'd go so far to say that I wish I lived "back then" but I do think it would be nice to experience a simpler life. It's hard to even imagine a life where people aren't sitting at dinner checking their phones while at a table full of other people or actually being forced to have a conversation with a stranger because you don't have a phone to occupy your time while sitting in a waiting room.
So I'm with Jarrid on this one. I don't know that I can divorce my phone but I think I want a separation. We can live in the same house and we can even be cordial to each other but our time is going to be severely limited. It's time to start focusing on what's right in front of me, live in the moment, and enjoy this life.