September 27, 2011

The Grass Isn't Always Greener

Honestly I have been feeling a little "the grass is greener" lately.  I feel like I have been doing a lot of comparing and a lot of "I wish" lately.  It's ugly and I'm embarrassed by it but it's the truth.  
I see stay at home moms and I am jealous.  I want to be a stay at home mom, hell I'd settle for part time stay at home mom. I see people with new things, clothes, shoes, cars, and I want those things.  I read husbands doing romantic things for their wives and I want Jimmy to come home with a dozen roses, rub my feet and make me dinner too.
But, truth be told, I have a pretty good life too.
I have a very nice house that we love.  I have clothes on my back.  I have a husband who only wants for me to be happy.  I have the most precious baby girl I could have imagined. And I have two fur babies that always know how to turn a frown upside down.
Isn't that enough? I mean, is the grass always greener?
Sure we see people that have things {material or not} that we envy, we are human after all.  But we don't know the sacrifices that had to be made to get these things.  It could have meant that they went days,weeks, months without seeing their husband who works so they can stay home.  It may be that they have racked up hundreds or thousands of dollars in credit card debt to afford it.  Maybe they've been saving for a LONG time to get something they've desired for so long.  The point is, you just don't know.

So I don't have the newest car.  I don't live in a mansion.  I have to work full time.  I don't have designer shoes.  I don't go out to fancy dinners.  Kendall doesn't have Tiny Toms.  I can't stay home with Kendall like I want to.  But you know what I do have?  Life.  This one life that I would not trade for anything in this world.  This one life that has been pretty damn good to me.  We all have one life and instead of living it green with envy let's enjoy what we do have.
We may never have all that we want but as long as we have what we need, well that's a good life to me.  At the end of the day, all that matters is family, friends, love, health and happiness and I have all of those things.

33 comments:

  1. love this post! It's 100% true! Love ya, lady!! I hope you have a great day! :)

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  2. Couldn't have said it better!! I completely agree, and what a great day to read this. I have been feeling a little green lately of a few things. But let's face it, I have a pretty damn good life also. And so much to be grateful for. Thanks for this this morning!! One day you will be able to be home with Kendall, when the time is right it will happen. Happy Tuesday!!

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  3. Very well said! :) I, too, am a working mom, and I would give *anything* to stay at home with my baby (and am very jealous sometimes of those moms that do), so it's nice to know I'm not alone in those feelings.

    But, I'm happy with everything that I have and just grateful to be as lucky as I am. Things could be so much worse!

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  4. I so needed this this morning. Thank you!

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  5. You wrote what I needed to see this morning. Thank you lover.

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  6. wonderful post!!

    It couldn't be any more accurate, it's like how if you have curly hair, you want straight hair. Well not really but its how I always felt!

    Hopefully one day we will be able to be home with our girls, lets keep our fingers crossed..and maybe start playing the lottery??

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  7. Love this.. thanks for the reminder!

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  8. Amen sista! It is so hard not to compare your life to others. We all do it but at the end of the day we all need to realize to be grateful for the blessings we have. Great post!

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  9. Totes. As much as I would love to have a hubby and babes, I think about the naps and the jetting off every weekend...there's a trade off. (Granted it might be easier to get said hubs and babe if I were dating and/or "practicing", but I digress.)

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  10. I've been feeling a lot like this lately too so don't feel bad! We can't afford a new car or even a used one for that matter, my clothes aren't the most stylish by any means and I find myself lusting after other peoples things. But I know that 90% of the people I know who have nice things are up to their ears in debt.

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  11. I really needed this today so thanks! Well said!

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  12. I feel the EXACT same way. Thanks for the perspective :-)

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  13. Thank you for posting this. It's so true! I'm embarrassed to say it, but I've been feeling overwhelmed with my baby as a SAHM and kinda jealous of those that do get out of the house to work. He has been SO SO SO cranky non stop every waking moment with these teeth coming in that I've just been overwhelmed. THank you for the reminder that we need to be grateful for the wonderful life we do have.

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  14. I've been feeling the same way - and actually just admitted this on my blog recently too. It felt good to come clean and accept what I was feeling in order to work on myself and rise above those thoughts. Stay strong!

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  15. so very true!! I definitely take a lot of things for granted and don't stop and enjoy life enough...I also fall into the trap of thinking no one else has problems or issues-LOVE what you posted about throwing our issues in a pile :)

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  16. This is such a great, well written post. Loved it!!

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  17. Love this post. So true, sadly we all need to remind ourselves of this from time to time!

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  18. This was a great post, I know every one can relate to those feelings :)

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  19. I just love the second quote becauses its so true!

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  20. Well said my friend! It's 100% true. I also wish for all the pretty (materialistic) things that others have and I so wish I didn't do that.

    Thanks for posting this! It's a great reminder.

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  21. It's like you read my mind! Lately, I feel like I've been complaining a lot. Or at least I have in my head. And? Most of it has been about wishing i could be at home with Baby J. But like you said, we do have so much to be grateful for even if we must go to work every day! Wonderful post!

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  22. So true! I have also learned that when reading blogs it is very easy to fall into "wanting someone else's perfect life." Thank you for reminding me to always be thankful for MY life! Hope you're having a great day!

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  23. I stumbled upon your blog today and hit "subscribe" right after the first post.

    & although we all have our "stuff" and wants or needs or "I wish" lists, I absolutely LOVE this....

    "But you know what I do have? Life. This one life that I would not trade for anything in this world. This one life that has been pretty damn good to me."

    Truer words have never been spoken. & I love your perspective.

    xo,
    Nikki
    www.frommrstomomma.blogspot.com

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  24. So true! I regularly have to sit back and think... wait... I have a GREAT life! Thank you God!

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  25. Well written!! It's all SOOOO true, and we all feel the same way as you at some point or another. I love that quote about throwing your problems in a pile. It's good to kinda slap yourself silly once in a while to make yourself wake up and realize HOW good you have it!!

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  26. I just started following your blog (because my cousins do...Jennifer w/ B & L, and Cindy)! Love this post. I agree totally about wanting what others have, but you do NOT know what sacrifices/consequences may be as a result. I want my husband around more, and he says okay, I'll go work for walmart and we'll move, etc. Soooo.....

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  27. You couldn't be MORE right with this post!!
    Where someone's grass *might* look greener.... most times - it's just an illusion. Seriously.
    Everyone has their problems. Everyone has their wants.
    It's just about appreciating the here and the now!
    Love this post!!

    @amkisses

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  28. Hey girl- I feel ya on this. I saw something on Pinterest that said "Never let comparison steal your joy" Doesn't that make perfect sense? It's so silly, but such an easy trap to fall into.

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  29. Such a good post and so true. It's always so easy to compare our lives with other peoples, especially with blogging.

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  30. Thank goodness someone talked about this! I've been feeling the same way lately (maybe it has to do with all the new fall stuff coming out) but you're right! I just need to remember everything that I DO have!

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  31. Ladies,I am a stay at home mom and a full time college student. I too always thought how nice it would be to be able to be home with my kids. Don't get me wrong I do but it all depends on the job your husband has. When we decided I would stay home, there were somthings we had to give up to be able to do it.Get a new car.. I would love...and the more positive side, I don't really think it matters if your a working mom or a stay at home mom...it;s about your kids knowing that you love them.

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