June 11, 2014

Four Days

Jimmy and I haven't been on a trip, just the two of us, since our honeymoon in 2009.  Mainly because we got pregnant with Kendall a month later BUT STILL.  We've had a handful of kid-free overnights {only one since James has been born} but, as any parent knows, that's just not enough.  We were craving some alone time, as husband and wife.

We started talking about a kid-free trip back during the worst winter ever.  We talked about flying somewhere, visiting our amazing honeymoon location again, just driving up north for a weekend, but we really didn't figure any of it would actually happen.  Our friends recently moved back to South Carolina in the winter {I can't say I blame them} and suggested we come to visit them.  Within driving distance? Check! Free place to stay? Check!  Visiting old friends? Checkity check!  So we got everything lined up and off to Holden Beach we went, just the two of us.

We wanted to make the most of our short time away so we broke up our 12 hour drive into two days, staying overnight in a hotel about halfway through the first day.  That was the best idea because it made our trip seem so much longer than it actually was and we had that time to just ourselves.

Can I just say how enjoyable even a 12 hour car trip is when there are no kids screaming, asking to change the DVD player, playing eye spy, interrupting any and every conversation you try to have, pulling over to pee, etc?  It is actually quite nice to talk, listen to your own music or just sit in complete silence.

I realized something on this trip, I really like my husband.

Don't get me wrong, I love him to the moon and back and I'll like him for always but the day to day things get in the way and sometimes I forget just how cool the man I married really is.  He works a physically demanding job every day and has been working overtime and side jobs so much lately that I haven't really seen him as much as I'd like.  I feel like a chicken with it's head cut off, most days, and the last thing I want to do at the end of the day is engage with anyone else, aka just leave me alone!  It's sad but true and I doubt we are the only couple with young kids who feel this way.

This trip is just what we needed; time alone to reconnect and fall in love all over again.  And that's just what we did.  Yes we were with friends but more importantly was that we were without kids.  We were able to be silly and carefree which we very rarely get to do in our every day lives.  It seems like there's always something to do and worry about and our relationship gets put to the back burner, a lot.  Not this weekend though.  This weekend we had not a care in the world except to just have a good time.

And a good time we had.  I almost feel silly, being so giddy, over it but I feel like we are newlyweds again.  We are doing things for each other, going out of our way to make the other happy, sneaking kisses here and there and it's FUN again.  I guess I didn't realize what a rut we were in before.

Jimmy and I have always been more vocal via text.  Sounds silly to say but it's true.  When we were just dating we ONLY had texting conversations, unless we were with each other.  It seemed as though it were easier to say those heartfelt things over a text, I've always been better at writing than talking.  And even after almost five years of marriage and two kids we are still that way.  I sent him a text yesterday telling him how in love I was with him and how refreshed I feel after our little getaway.  He expressed how he feels the same and never wants to get in that rut again.

I am more in love with him now than I've ever been and it feels so good to say that.  He is my rock, my biggest supporter and my soft place to land.  I pray for him, for our relationship and our family, that we only grow closer together.  I hope that we never lose sight of who we are, even when life gets in the way.  He is a good man and would do anything for me and our family.  He makes me a better person and I hope he can say the same about me.  I am proud to call him my husband and that he choose me to be his wife.  I am thankful that I get to spend the rest of my life with my best friend.

Can we do it all over again next weekend?


  1. I'm so glad you guys had such a great time! You definitely deserve it. I'm learning quickly that it is so important to make time for each other but it isn't always easy with kids! Loved seeing all your pictures!

  2. Love this. My husband and I recently had our first baby (exactly 40 weeks and 1 day after our wedding...yup.) and never got to take a honeymoon because my dad sadly passed away 2 days after the wedding (the day we were scheduled to leave). We recently went on our first trip together (with our 6 week old) and were already talking/dreaming of a trip alone... Someday. :-)


  3. I think that parents should get a mandatory vacation every year, just the 2 of them. I am certain it will help the divorce rate in this country! Going away with Jon last month was absolutely the perfect thing, and I appreciate him even more now.

  4. Love this. You two looked like you has a blast. P.S. You look amazing!!

  5. Amazing! I only hope that I meet someone and can feel this way someday. So nice to know a weekend away together can be such a great thing for your relationship. Hope you get to go away again sooner than 4 years!

  6. LETS VACATION TOGETHER!!!! maybe with the babies? i will watch KP and JW for a wittle bit :)

  7. I am glad you had a great time kid free..
    As well as being able to catch up with friends :)

  8. This trip sounds amazing and I am so glad you did it - for you and for your marriage. I can already feel that MC and I need a trip like this soon - where can just enjoy each other (with no distractions!) x

  9. From IG, I could tell you and J were just glowing in the freedom of no kids and nothing but each other and fun times to be had! I'm happy ya'll enjoyed your time together. Reconnecting is so good for a marriage.

  10. Glad you had such a wonderful time together!